You should have told your wife that you were not happy and left before you had an affair. That's just plain wrong. I don't care how fat she got. I have gained weight and lost weight. There was a time that I was anorexic because I thought that would make me and others around me happy. I ended up gaining weight again and that's when all the problems started again. I'm sick of this crappy attitude from men. This wonderful notion of "oh, my wife isn't doing it for me anymore, let me go find someone more interesting." It's disgusting. I gave that "man" everything! I let him do whatever he wanted, no questions really at all. He would come and go as he pleased, etc. In the end he turned on me and said he felt "trapped" - that I didn't let him do anything.. that whole summer he was gone almost always. What also bothers me is the fact that you went back to your wife after everything. My ex also tried to play this.. like nothing had happened..trust me women just know. I'm sure your wife can tell what's going on or what has been happening and she has no idea what to do .. she feels like she's lost control so she eats and lashes out. Your attitude is obviously not the same towards her as when it was when you got married. When was the last time you tried to do something nice for her? If you have sincerely tried and she is still acting that way.. even after you talk to her - which I doubt you two did.. then there is a problem. Anyway my ex said that we were going to "work" through our problems. It wasn't "our" problem.. it was HIS! Stop blaming your wife for something that is supposed to be a 2 sided relationship! The more I read about this crap, the less hope I have in men and the less desire to get married. This whole cheating thing isn't for me - I can't deal with it anymore. People shouldn't have to live like this.. in fear everyday that the person they love unconditionally is going to go out and sleep with someone else just for the simple pleasures of LUST! That's all it is - LUST! Figures your name is the same as my ex.
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You should have told your wife that you were not happy and left before you had an affair. That's just plain wrong. I don't care how fat she got. I have gained weight and lost weight. There was a time that I was anorexic because I thought that would make me and others around me happy. I ended up gaining weight again and that's when all the problems started again. I'm sick of this crappy attitude from men. This wonderful notion of "oh, my wife isn't doing it for me anymore, let me go find someone more interesting." It's disgusting. I gave that "man" everything! I let him do whatever he wanted, no questions really at all. He would come and go as he pleased, etc. In the end he turned on me and said he felt "trapped" - that I didn't let him do anything.. that whole summer he was gone almost always. What also bothers me is the fact that you went back to your wife after everything. My ex also tried to play this.. like nothing had happened..trust me women just know. I'm sure your wife can tell what's going on or what has been happening and she has no idea what to do .. she feels like she's lost control so she eats and lashes out. Your attitude is obviously not the same towards her as when it was when you got married. When was the last time you tried to do something nice for her? If you have sincerely tried and she is still acting that way.. even after you talk to her - which I doubt you two did.. then there is a problem. Anyway my ex said that we were going to "work" through our problems. It wasn't "our" problem.. it was HIS! Stop blaming your wife for something that is supposed to be a 2 sided relationship! The more I read about this crap, the less hope I have in men and the less desire to get married. This whole cheating thing isn't for me - I can't deal with it anymore. People shouldn't have to live like this.. in fear everyday that the person they love unconditionally is going to go out and sleep with someone else just for the simple pleasures of LUST! That's all it is - LUST! Figures your name is the same as my ex.