Want to help my wife

Hopefully, by the time I post this your wife's menopausal symptoms have gotten better. Unfortunately, if she's not taking bioidentical hormones, she may be the same or doing worse. Please read the books AGELESS and BREAKTHROUGH by Suzanne Somers. They were a true Godsend in my house. I was going through the same things as your wife compounded with not being able to sleep, hot flashes, night sweats, no sexual interest in my husband and putting on weight. This book saved my life!

If any of you men want to really help your wife and yourself through menopause then get her to a chiropractor that is involved with a MAXIMIZED LIVING program. It is a healthy lifestyle to helps with so many things including menopause. Whatever you do keep her away from any and all doctors, they will kill her with drugs! I too suffered greatly from depression (over 2 years), mood swings, night sweats, meaness, boy was I mean and I knew it but couldn't do a thing about it! I was also suffering from alot of pain in my joints and arthritis and headaches and I just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up in the mornings as I felt it wasn't worth living like this. I cried over everything until one day I went to a Chiropractor who is involved with a MAXIMIZED LIVING program (look it up on the internet). I now have a whole new life, I lost 25 lbs, I no longer have mood swings or depression and I am no longer mean. It is like getting a new lease on life and I feel younger now then I did for the last 5 years. We need to get healthier so that we can stay away from doctors as much as possible and live long happy lives and not sick pathetic lives like so many of us are doing now, me included until now. I have only been in this program since April of this year and I feel just great, I can't tell you enough how much it has done for me and my marriage and my husband as well as he is also on the program and he feels so much better as well. So do yourself a favor and check on this! I wish everyone would do this program!!

My wife has been going through early meno for about 3 Years Now and it has been quite the adventure. At first, neither of us understood it then once we did, it made it a "little" bit easier but there have been some major challenges and still are at times although parts of her seem to be coming back.

At first, she was depressed, moody, snappy, and all the other stuff and probably the worst thing that I did was tried too hard to be loving and overhelpful and she pushed away.

The best I can offer is to let her know that your there and you love her no matter what and then give her freedom to get through depression, etc and figure out who she is turning into. And then hope for the best.

It's men like you that give MEN a good name, lol.

I did a lot of crying, too, when I started my menopause. Hormone drops can cause depression! I went on an antidepressant and it worked fantastic! I was only on them for 3 years then I was fine.

I don't believe in HRT'S cause I think they cause more damage than good! Besides, why prolong the inevitable! GO THROUGH THE MENOPAUSE, do delay it with hormones!

Your wife needs a good gynecologist that is compassionate and KNOWS about menopause. NOT AN OBGYN!! They are concerned about delivering babies!

Get her ON HERE! We'll talk to her! TAKE CARE.

buy her flowers, take her away for a weekend, clean the house, do the laundry, make the kids be nice, buy her dessert, take her out to dinner, send her out with her friends, and then start over again. Just a suggestion.

Hmmmm..... you've heard of us having mood swings due to changes in hormones, well that's exactly what is happening with her & she doesn't have a lot of control over that piece of it. It wouldn't hurt for her to check with a doctor to see if she might need some HRT. It's also important for a doctor to figure out for sure whether she's crying because of the hormonal fluctuations or whether she is going into a true depression which might require medication. I highly recommend NOT discussing this with her when she is highly emotional, and definitely approach gingerly so she doesn't feel attacked. She probably recognizes her out of whack emotions & that can actually make her feel even worse!! Potential endless cycle if that's the case.

Biggest thing you can do is stay calm when she is emotional. Be there in whatever way normally calms her when she is crying... whether it's a hug, cuddle, back rub, etc. etc. Communication is important, but when she's emotional, she won't be rational enough to have a good discussion. When her emotions are balanced, grab the opportunity and ask her what you can do to help. Ask her if she knows what's setting her off. Ask her if she feels better after crying, or whether she feels like she's "sinking into a hole," which would mean medication is required because you sure don't want someone to sink into a depression or to start thinking about self-harm due to a temporary hormonal fluctuation.

Key things in summary!
1-Good check up and HONEST discussion with doctor would be good.
2-Communication between you about this should occur, but make sure it's at a time she can be rational.
3-Give her the love & kudos your normally would give her when she's upset. If it's worked before, it should help to some degree now.

Good luck!

Hmmmm..... you've heard of us having mood swings due to changes in hormones, well that's exactly what is happening with her & she doesn't have a lot of control over that piece of it. It wouldn't hurt for her to check with a doctor to see if she might need some HRT. It's also important for a doctor to figure out for sure whether she's crying because of the hormonal fluctuations or whether she is going into a true depression which might require medication. I highly recommend NOT discussing this with her when she is highly emotional, and definitely approach gingerly so she doesn't feel attacked. She probably recognizes her out of whack emotions & that can actually make her feel even worse!! Potential endless cycle if that's the case.

Biggest thing you can do is stay calm when she is emotional. Be there in whatever way normally calms her when she is crying... whether it's a hug, cuddle, back rub, etc. etc. Communication is important, but when she's emotional, she won't be rational enough to have a good discussion. When her emotions are balanced, grab the opportunity and ask her what you can do to help. Ask her if she knows what's setting her off. Ask her if she feels better after crying, or whether she feels like she's "sinking into a hole," which would mean medication is required because you sure don't want someone to sink into a depression or to start thinking about self-harm due to a temporary hormonal fluctuation.

Key things in summary!
1-Good check up and HONEST discussion with doctor would be good.
2-Communication between you about this should occur, but make sure it's at a time she can be rational.
3-Give her the love & kudos your normally would give her when she's upset. If it's worked before, it should help to some degree now.

Good luck!