How to Increase Male Sex Drive

Yes its true men have libido problems, too! We often speak about low sex drive in women, but men struggle with these issues as well. And when a man's sex drive is low, it can negatively impact his sense of masculinity and who he is as a man. It can also negatively affect his partner's sexual self-esteem she may feel unwanted, unloved, and undesirable. Ouch!

Research tells us that approximately 5% of men have a low sex drive. However, I think this number may be an underrepresentation of the problem. I frequently work with men in my private practice who have low desire. Men are shamed by it, confused by it, and oftentimes it creates significant problems in their intimate relationship. Sometimes men try and have sex anyway, but it can be difficult to get erect if a man doesn't want sex. Other times men develop a strategy to avoid sex - falling asleep on the couch is one example, or staying up late working at the computer.

What lowers a man's desire for sex?

Like women, a wide variety of issues can interfere with a mans sex drive. Some common culprits include stress, physical health, side effects of medications, unacknowledged and/or unresolved anger at his partner, and feeling unappreciated by his partner. In addition, I frequently work with men who are so over-focused on their thoughts that they have become disconnected from their body and physical sensation. These men are out of touch with their bodys natural rhythms, sex drive being one of them.

How can he fix it?Fixing a failing sex drive may take some work and depends on why he lost his desire for sex. Think in terms of physical issues, emotional issues, and relationship issues. In the physical realm, start by reviewing medications for possible side effects, and identify any physical issues like medical problems or smoking. From an emotional perspective, rule out depression, stress, and anxiety. Finally, emotional issues within the intimate relationship may need attention. Is he feeling patronized by his partner, unappreciated, or misunderstood? If the issues seem to complex to address without help, you can find a sex therapist at www.aasect.org.Do you or your partner struggle with low libido? Tell us about it. Lets talk more about how to deal with this very challenging intimate issue.Yes its true men have libido problems, too! We often speak about low sex drive in women, but men struggle with these issues as well. And when a man's sex drive is low, it can negatively impact his sense of masculinity and who he is as a man. It can also negatively affect his partner's sexual self-esteem she may feel unwanted, unloved, and undesirable. Ouch!Research tells us that approximately 5% of men have a low sex drive. However, I think this number may be an underrepresentation of the problem. I frequently work with men in my private practice who have low desire. Men are shamed by it, confused by it, and oftentimes it creates significant problems in their intimate relationship. Sometimes men try and have sex anyway, but it can be difficult to get erect if a man doesn't want sex. Other times men develop a strategy to avoid sex - falling asleep on the couch is one example, or staying up late working at the computer.
What lowers a man's desire for sex?Like women, a wide variety of issues can interfere with a mans sex drive. Some common culprits include stress, physical health, side effects of medications, unacknowledged and/or unresolved anger at his partner, and feeling unappreciated by his partner. In addition, I frequently work with men who are so over-focused on their thoughts that they have become disconnected from their body and physical sensation. These men are out of touch with their bodys natural rhythms, sex drive being one of them.How can he fix it?Fixing a failing sex drive may take some work and depends on why he lost his desire for sex. Think in terms of physical issues, emotional issues, and relationship issues. In the physical realm, start by reviewing medications for possible side effects, and identify any physical issues like medical problems or smoking. From an emotional perspective, rule out depression, stress, and anxiety. Finally, emotional issues within the intimate relationship may need attention. Is he feeling patronized by his partner, unappreciated, or misunderstood? If the issues seem to complex to address without help, you can find a sex therapist at www.aasect.org.Do you or your partner struggle with low libido? Tell us about it. Lets talk more about how to deal with this very challenging intimate issue.About the Author: Marianne Brandon, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the president and director of Wellminds Wellbodies LLC, a center for integrative and holistic psychological care in Annapolis, Maryland. The co-author of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys for Finding Your Lost Libido, Dr. Brandon is also a Diplomat in Sex Therapy through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Her next book, Monogamy: The Untold Story, will be published in September.
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