My boyfriend and I are sick of our same bedroom routine. What are some new Tantric techniques and positions that we can try? -- L.
Dear L.,
The philosophy of Tantra invites each of us to explore, create and risk in ways that produce new understanding and new connections with ourselves and in our relationships.
Witnessing our partner, seeing and hearing their truth, and honoring them as our teacher and cohort in adventure sets the stage for limitless possibilities.
Open up your lovemaking by turning on the lights. When we keep our eyes open during lovemaking, we can't hide. Our feelings, our fears, our love all hang out for airing. This will lead to softening the experience of lovemaking.
Sit across from each other on the bed before you begin and simply breathe together and eye gaze for five minutes. You may want to softly hold hands or try placing your right hand on your partner's heart and your left hand over their hand on your heart. The connection created helps you to feel their breath and stay in sync with them.
At the end of the five minutes, you are both welcome to say a few words to each other. These can be words of love or words that show your vulnerability at that moment. Vulnerability is one of our most powerful tools for creating love. Tenderness and caring are the usual results of stating our worries and fears.
Remember that you have night after night of extraordinary lovemaking in your life. We all have a very hard time receiving without giving. Ask your partner to just receive one night a week. You can then ask (I'm sure it will be offered!) if one night a week can be yours.
Learn new things together. Stay supple in your bodies and open in your willingness to experiment. Free your minds to receive pleasure. It is your birthright!
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