I am a 64-year-old male who recognizes the importance of Tantric wisdom. It surprises me that when I do searches on the subject of the power of the eyes in sexual arousal, I find nothing! Why isn't this subject explored more? -- S.
Dear S.,
The eyes are indeed powerful allies. Tantric philosophy sees the open eye as a metaphor for an open life and an open heart.
To gain a more conscious awareness of how we use our eyes, pay attention to how you are using your eyes. Notice if you don't meet someone's gaze. Notice when you do and how it makes you feel. Try giving a person you are having a conversation with your full attention with very open, attentive eyes. See if they become more comfortable and relaxed with you.
To enhance our intimacy and connection with our partners, keep the lights on while you make love. The lights should be soft but bright enough for the two of you to fully see each other.
Lie or sit facing each other and simply eye-gaze for five minutes. This will be difficult for many people. Stay with it. Take it into your lovemaking. See the beauty in the person you are with. Very soon you will be wondering how you ever made love without having your eyes open.
Play some eye flirting games with your partner. Ask your partner to use his or her eyes to express the emotions associated with rapture, longing, need, coyness and devotion. Then you try it. Use these expressions in your lovemaking.
Just as important as giving information with the eyes is receiving information with the eyes. Keep your eyes soft and receptive. Let your partner in. Take a deep breath and relax. Develop the capacity to soften to an even deeper level.
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