If you're a single ThirdAger, re-entering the dating sphere can be, at the very least, confusing. It can also be frightening. You wonder how to present yourself in a way that will attract the kind of person you want to be with. Questions like "Will I look good?" and even "Can I compete?" may worry your mind in the beginning. Though everyone is thinking the same thing, you feel alone.
When you come back to your authentic self and practice ways of being in balance, things will go better. Eating right and exercising -- and feeling powerful and fulfilled in the other aspects of your life -- will help to ease this time. A simple practice like meditation or yoga can restore that balance, as can sharing your feelings openly with friends.
When it comes to the actual date, here are things you can do to allow the two of you to get to know each other better before taking steps to the next level: sex. Try some of these ideas after your first few social "dates" to develop a closer relationship.
Sit facing each other, hold hands and eye-gaze for five minutes. One or both of you may find this difficult. Let the giggles pass and keep doing it. Breathe together and keep your eyes soft. There's nothing to do -- just look. Don't smile or make faces -- just softly gaze. If you wish to take it another step, place your right hand in the center of your partner's chest, and your own left hand over your partner's hand to hold it there. Have your partner adopt the same position, then gaze for another five minutes.
Go dancing -- even if one of you doesn't want to. Dancing frees your spirit and lets your light shine through. You don't have to be great at it. Come from innocence and you'll have fun!
Orchestrate an evening of erotic touch -- one that keeps the clothes on. Gather things like a makeup brush, a feather, a piece of soft fur, a rose bud, a soft shawl, the silky edge of a blanket or any other thing that has a sensual, soft texture. If your partner is willing, use a blindfold to treat him or her to a sensual experience. You can even stimulate the sense of smell with pure oils such as aroma-therapy essences. Get creative to show that side of your nature. Make sure you both get a turn.
Play a truth-telling game together. There are a few good ones on the market that consist of questions on cards that can be answered with a decline, a lie or the truth. Most people always opt for the truth because we like to disclose things about ourselves. It's a great way to have fun and see the deeper side of a prospective mate.
Staying conscious and in your authentic self will help you draw in the partner you've always wanted. Be real and begin again with a kind of innocence that allows you to "play" at the dating game, and you'll shine through to those you meet.
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