To be sure, some men may have unrealistic expectations of what hot sex with their wives might mean. Some of these guys have come across media depictions of sex -- perhaps on a porn Web site -- that show things that their wives wouldn't do in a hundred years. And we can't be too clear about this: No one should ever do anything they are uncomfortable with. However, there is a huge erotic world between porn sites and "same way, same place, same time."
For many couples, the mere act of talking about erotic desires can spark sexual heat that you might have thought impossible to rekindle. Why not try sharing some of your fantasies with your wife? Never underestimate the power of imagination to enhance sexual chemistry.
Bob and Susan are currently co-writing "He's Just Not Up for It Anymore: When Men Stop Having Sex, and What Women Are Doing About It," which will be published by William Morrow in 2008. If you are -- or have ever been -- in a sexless marriage or in a committed relationship where the man ended sex, Bob and Susan would love to hear from you. Click here to take their survey.
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