Who are you in bed? A bashful woman? A buck-wild babe? Well, whoever you are, push your sexual boundaries for increased pleasure. "Stepping outside your comfort zone in bed may make you feel vulnerable, but it can also create more intimacy with your partner," says Alex Robboy, a Philadelphia sex therapist and founder of howtohavegoodsex.com. And it could be fun! Here's how any woman can take sex to the next level.
Conservative
You don't plan on breaking out handcuffs tonight -- but you may have fantasized about it once.
Technique to try: When you're alone, masturbate to discover what rhythms, spots and intensities turn you on. Then go back to your honey and tell him -- or better yet, show him. "Letting your [partner] know what arouses you is the most seductive thing you can do," says Susie Bright, editor of The Best American Erotica series (Touchstone).
Toy to try: Ideal for the sex-trinket rookie, Incognito ($24.95; mypleasure.com) is a discreet minivibrator that looks like a bottle of nail polish (but is better than a manicure any day). It's also a fun way to bring a sex toy into the bedroom.
Adventurous
You probably have a few vibrators in the drawer of your nightstand, next to your blindfold.
Technique to try:"Have your partner touch you for five minutes wherever he wants, no matter how hard or soft," suggests Robboy. "Then have him touch you where you want for another five minutes." This give and take will help you connect by tapping into each other's needs and desires. Just don't forget to return the favor.
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