You might tell your friends that there is no blueprint for retirement. Remind them that individuals in later life are more diverse than similar to one another.
In addition to wanting to spend time with you, your friends may be making a specific suggestion -- to have more balance in your life that includes your worthwhile activities and just some pure fun and enjoyment. The latter can be difficult.
We are of a generation for whom work was an important value. Wasting time was almost sinful. For some, playing without guilt can be a challenge.
Retirement is personal. George Burns never wanted to retire:
"Retirement at 65 is ridiculous. When I was 65 I still had pimples," he once said. "I'm going to stay in show business until I'm the only one left."
Unlike Burns, most people eventually retire, but not necessarily in the traditional sense. They may work part time, return to school, start a business, travel and continue to be fully engaged.
Let your friends know that retirement in 2007 is different from years ago. After expressing your respect for their decisions, you might join them for a quick lunch, just for fun. Consider it good practice.
Thank you for your question and enjoy this important chapter in life.
Helen Dennis is a specialist in aging, with academic, corporate and nonprofit experience.
Source: Daily Breeze. Powered by Yellowbrix.
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