Kinsey Institute Says Women Want Sex and Men Want to Cuddle

Sex is a major influence on the quality of a relationship Once couples stop having sex the relationship can become subject to detachment anger and even worse infidelity or divorce   You may think you have a good reason for cutting back on sex but the fact is that study after study affirms its importance to a healthy relationshipIf you notice that you or your partners libido has been lacking lately here are some tips to help reignite the sparks and get the magic back in the bedroom

File this one under, "everything you thought was a lie." According to a new study by the Kinsey Institute For Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction, it’s men, not women, who are saying, “Can’t we just stay home and cuddle tonight?” And in case you still had any confidence in conventional wisdom, the study also found that sexual satisfaction is more important to women than men.   


The study surveyed 1,009 heterosexual couples in long-term relationships from the United States, Brazil, Germany, Japan and Spain. All participants, who ranged in age from 25 to 76, had lived together or were married for at least one year, and the average relationship length was 25 years.


Researchers at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute were surprised to find that men who reported frequent kissing, hugging and caressing, otherwise known as snuggle time, were on average three times happier than those that didn’t. For women, on the other hand, all that lovey dovey stuff didn’t have a significant impact on how much they enjoyed their relationship. What mattered to women, far more so than it mattered to men, was the sex. 


The study found that while women’s overall satisfaction with a relationship depended primarily on their own good sexual functioning and the duration of the relationship, the reasons for a man’s satisfaction were more varied. Some key contributors for men were longer relationships, good physical health, good sexual functioning and their wives’ sexual satisfaction. According to TIME, a man’s own contentment increased 17% with each additional point he rated the importance of his partner’s orgasm.

  Both women and men became happier with a relationship the longer it lasted, and for women, the sex continued to improve as the relationship progressed. Women reported far more sexual satisfaction after being with the same man for 15 years.    "Possibly, women become more satisfied over time because their expectations change, or life changes with the children grown," said Julia Heiman, director of the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction and lead author of the study, as quoted by TIME. "On the other hand, those who weren't so happy sexually might not be married so long."        
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