Relaxation is a Key

If you learn to deeply relax your whole body and breathe deeply into your abdomen during sensual activities your experience will be more fulfilling. Here’s an example of why this works so well. Many women get to about a 7 or 8 level of arousal (based on a 1 to 10 scale) during sexual activity and then something happens – the feeling slips away. They struggle to get it back and then, at that same arousal level of 7 or 8, it slips again. It’s been observed that many women hold their breath at this point in the cycle.
When arousal is building the natural inclination is to start to tighten the pelvis and vaginal region and this tension can further escalate into holding the breath. This constricts the blood vessels, decreases blood flow (and hence the oxygen flow) and begins to shut your body down to sexual stimuli. By relaxing your body completely and focusing your mind on deep breathing, just as you would if you were meditating, instead of worrying about why you aren’t orgasming quickly, you not only gain all of this back but you begin to build your arousal levels more quickly. With a little practice you can quicken your sexual responsiveness and smooth out the ride to orgasm.
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