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We go through many stages in life with our bodies, our minds and our interests in life. It’s all changing, all the time. That can be a kind of curse or a possible blessing, depending on how you relate to it. As we age the hormone estrogen drops in level in our bodies and we women experience a variety of changes. Some women experience more transitions than others.

Our minds are our largest and most robust sex organs – not our genitals. It may take a bit more time to reach your pleasure states but the intensity doesn’t have to diminish if you practice some new sexercises and intimacy practices. Breathing, pelvic exercises like Kegels and fun, new techniques that you can learn with or without your lover are things that will help you put your sexual energy back on track, but possibly in a new, deeper way.

I’m of the school of ‘just say yes more’ and see what follows. Your desire levels, at first inspection, may seem low but it has recently been shown that often women are actually aroused physically (they show signs under fMRI and other ways during research) and don’t associate it with desire. The long heralded sex response structure from Masters and Johnson’s research in the 50’s puts desire ahead of arousal but that isn’t what is showing up in the research being done with the new powerful tools that are available to today’s researchers.

So if you understand with your mind that you may have a measure of arousal already you can make the leap to sexual connecting and ‘develop’ the desire/arousal fields by consciously touching, kissing, eye gazing, and playfully teasing. It doesn’t always have to go beyond that but you’ll find you are having more intimate time with your partner that way and it may help you to overcome the ‘feeling’ of less desire.

You can advocate for yourself and find new ways to have fun with sex and deepen the experience too. Western Tantric sex techniques are easy, arousing and satisfying. I can’t say enough about doing your Kegel sexercises, also. If you do anything towards revamping your interest, these easy exercises should be it. They increase your awareness, response time, intensity of orgasm and more. There’s an article about them here, so don’t hesitate! You’ll notice the difference.

For more information about Suzie Heumann and her work, visit www.tantra.com. To really get the most out of your loving, consider some advanced training. The Tantric Sex Guide is your 24 hour a day guide to the skills that will take you to new heights of pleasure and intimacy.