Suzie Heumann

My husband has become impotent since a motorbike accident. He also has revealed some dark experience as a child and the whole topic of sex has become a source of anger and rejection. I feel impotent, as I cannot raise a response in my man. I also feel I cannot practice as a midwife as I used to -- it all is around sex and the product of sex. I feel pretty miserable. I was so alive and passionate about life and now, well, it is sad. We are seeing therapists -- but I hope one day we can do this Tantric thing and be happy again ...

Can you please advise me on how to maintain the hardness of my erection? I don’t suffer from premature ejaculation but I lose my hardness sometimes when I am trying to pleasure my partner.

What are the teachings about oral sex? I was taught that either the giving or receiving of oral sex was WRONG! My husband has asked me for years why I don't want to try this. Am I missing something that is not altogether wrong, but enjoyable?

Is it normal to have less sensation in your nipples after menopause? My breasts don't hurt and my mammograms are fine, but my nipples don't have the same feeling when my husband trys to stimulate them. Also my sex drive is just about gone.

My wife is no longer very interested in sex, and we haven't had intercourse for a few years. I take saw palmetto for my swollen prostate gland, but am wondering how Taoist practices may help. The Tao of Loving speaks of "retaining the seed," but does this refer to the semen from the testicles or to the fluid from the prostate? I ask because if I do the practices and let the fluid build-up, it tends to increase the swelling. Since I don't have intercourse, how can I improve this situation?

Expert Advice: Tantra for One

Dear Suzie,

How can I incorporate the teachings of Tantra into my life without a partner? What techniques can I use to pleasure myself and how can I attract a new love using Tantra techniques? -- J.

Dear Suzie,

Sometimes I feel like I'm addicted to sex and that I'm looking for Tantra to justify that addiction. Any direction you might suggest?

-- B.

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