SuzieHeumann

Odorprints – Yours Are Unique so Come To Your Senses

The nostrils are the quickest route to the brain so along with those ‘first impressions’ from our visual senses comes the sense of smell to influence our intimate decision making processes. I often wonder why we are so obsessed with perfumes, after-shave, oils and lotions that are scented. Every variety of scent is offered, all to change how we smell. What’s wrong with our smells? Are we afraid of smelling too ‘randy’? Are we actually afraid of not having control over how we present ourselves? Are we that self-conscious? More…

Upping the Ante, One Way or Another

A couple of interesting research studies have come out this week giving us a better understanding of our ability to live life to its fullest potential. As a Tantrica I am always interested in easy to understand, simple ideas that can help me practice what I preach, so to speak. Though different from each other, I found that these two particular studies have a lot in common. More…

Controversial New Study on Orgasm and the Way Women Walk

Researchers from the University of the West of Scotland conducted a study on the correlation between the way women walk and whether or not they are vaginally orgasmic. After coming up with a set of criteria by which to judge, they set about filming 20 women walking. Half of the women were vaginally orgasmic (the exact definition of what 'vaginally orgasmic' means was not given) and the other half were self identified as not being vaginally orgasmic. More…

Touching - A Simple Way to Make It Great

The next time you give pleasurable touch to a lover, think about your fingertips - they are erogenous zones, too. No matter where you kiss or touch a lover it's the intention that really counts. A key ingredient to great touch is that the hand that is giving the touch should feel just as good, or even better, than the body part of the person receiving the touch. In other words, the Giver should be in pleasure along with the Receiver. More…

Ears - Erogenous Zone Alert

The Kama Sutra speaks of erotic sensuality, above all else. Paying special attention to the secondary erogenous zones ads variety and sensual sensations often missing in love play. Finding places on the body that call attention to several of our senses at once is a wonderful way to give attention to a lover. The ear is especially important as an erogenous zone because you can nibble it, gently manipulate it with your soft lips, bite it both gently and more forcibly and you can speak into it erotic words of love and endearment. Both men and women need a lot of verbal reassurance from their partners and this is why it is a very important zone. It can handle a lot of different kinds of stimulation! More…

Everything You Do

Everything we do in life has the potential to be transformational when we put our consciousness to it. We go about life mostly living in the past or the future. That looks like this in our brain: “What am I going to fix for dinner? When is the car going to get new tires? Why didn’t I do this when I was younger? If I walk the dog now I’ll be late for my favorite TV show.” And on and on. You could be in an exciting situation when all of these things are going on in your head and miss the whole thing. Which is what happens to many people while they are supposed to be enjoying themselves having sex. They just aren’t there. More…

Relaxation is a Key

If you learn to deeply relax your whole body and breathe deeply into your abdomen during sensual activities your experience will be more fulfilling. Here’s an example of why this works so well. Many women get to about a 7 or 8 level of arousal (based on a 1 to 10 scale) during sexual activity and then something happens – the feeling slips away. They struggle to get it back and then, at that same arousal level of 7 or 8, it slips again. It’s been observed that many women hold their breath at this point in the cycle. More…

Pushing Your Edges - Gently

“Don’t reject anything you are experiencing. Meet it instead with a brief moment of non-judgmental awareness – touching it and letting it be.” From Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships by John Welwood. More…

Annual AASECT Meeting

I’ve just come back from a five-day trip to New Orleans for the annual AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Councilors and Therapists). This is a group of people who are so warm, brilliant, dedicated and interesting that I feel blessed to be one of them. As luck would have it, not only did I have a product booth, with specific Tantra products, but two presentations I had applied for went through, also. More…

Do It Every Night

What happens when we make a leap-of-faith and decide to do something that sounds so radical to our friends and family but seems perfectly sane to us? One example might be the two couples who recently made the decision to make love for either everyday for a year or at least for 101 days. They have new books out, 365 Nights and Just Do It, so you can read about them. From the looks of their very smiley pictures it must have worked but I confess I haven’t read the books. More…