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Are you attractive enough to find and keep a mate?

I invite you to visit me at www.MenAlive.com and get your free e-newsletter on sex, love, and relationships. Every woman and man dreads to hear these words: "I love you, but I’m not in love with you." We all worry about keeping our partner interested in us and concerned that they might stray. This isn’t a new concern. Men and women have been cheating on each other since we first came down from the trees. And men and women have always tried to understand their partner’s attraction to others so they could prevent them from straying. However, it has only been in recent years that there has been scientific study that can help us truly understand what men crave in a woman and what women go ga ga for in a man. More…

Marginalized Men and Overburdened Women: The Curse of the Century

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com and claim your free e-newsletter on men, women, and relationships. One of the major trends of the century is that men are increasingly being viewed as irrelevant and women are breaking down trying to everything themselves. As a therapist specializing in gender issues, one of the chief complaints I hear from women is that they feel that they have to carry most of the responsibilities of life these days. "I just can’t count on men to carry their own weight and I certainly can’t rely on them to help carry me when I need it." Men are telling me that they don’t feel valued or appreciated. "No matter what I do, I don’t feel that women really believe that I contribute something of real value to the world." Is the old feminist line from the 60s, "A woman needs a man, like a fish needs a bicycle," true? More…

Why Do Men Seem So Insecure These Days?

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com and claim your free e-booklet on men's health One of the main complaints I hear from women these days is that the men in their lives seem so insecure and unsure of themselves. "He just doesn’t seem like the man I married," one woman told me. "He seems to have lost all confidence in himself. He’s depressed and withdrawn a lot of the time." Another woman said, "I never know what he’s going to be like when I come home. I’m always walking on egg-shells. It seems like the least little thing will set him off.  Why is he so insecure?" More…

The Real Reason Marriages Are in Trouble Today

Please come visit me at www.MenAlive.com and receive your free e-booklet on relationships. It may be that I’m biased about the troubles couples are having these days. I am, after all, a psychotherapist and marriage and family counselor. People come to me every day who are suffering because they aren’t happy in their relationship. So I grant you I probably see more relationship pain than the average person. But it isn’t just my clients. A lot of my friends and acquaintances are also having trouble these days. Even those who have been married for many years and seem to have good, stable relationships often feel they aren’t getting what they need in their marriage. Are we just born to be dissatisfied or is there something eating at the fabric of our relationship lives? More…

How to Fall In Love Again After You've Been Married 20 Plus Years

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com and claim your free e-booklet. I’ve been married now for 27 years. I love my wife, Carlin, and feel blessed that we have weathered the storms that all long-term marriages go through. It’s wonderful to feel that we can look forward to many more years of peace, joy, and intimacy. Like most couples our age we have had our share of issues related to sex and money—the two bugaboos that most couples face. But one of the things I still want is to fall in love again. Do I have to find someone new if I want that or is it possible to fall in love again with my wife? I think I’m beginning to understand how to fall in love again, to have my cake and eat it too. More…

Surviving His Change of Life: 15 Things You Must Do

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com. Claim your free e-booklet on men. The male change of life, also known as male menopause or andropause, is real and can be devastating to men and the women who love them. When unrecognized and untreated it can destroy relationships. Recent census estimates indicate that there are 62,063,000 men age 40 and above in the U.S. alone. There are 70,199,000 women in that age range. Millions of women in this age group, as well as younger women, are concerned about the impact his change of life is having on their relationship. More…

Why Men Use Porn and What Women (and Men) Need to Know About It

Please visit me at www.MenAlive.com and receive a free e-booklet on sex and love. My son, Aaron, and his girlfriend just visited from Portland, Oregon. His real love is doing music which he is very good at. He gave us a little taste by playing at the Open Mike at our local Pub. I was amazed at how good he’s become. It had been awhile since I had heard him sing, play piano and guitar. I got tears in my eyes hearing his poignant lyrics and passionate melodies. In his day job, though, he’s a computer whiz-kid. He’s the tech guy for a large company and we got talking about the "net." His feeling was that there was still very little real value being delivered. "The only industry that has consistently been making money from the beginning is pornography," he told me. It got me thinking. Why do so many men use porn? What do they really want? Do they find what they are looking for? More…

The Meaning of Family Reunion

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com and receive your free e-booklet on health. I grew up in a very small family. I’m an only child. My mother had one sister who never had children. My father’s side of the family is large, but since he left when I was 6 year’s old, I never grew up around uncles, aunts and cousins. When Carlin and I got together, I married into a very large family that has gotten together over the years for family reunions. I never understood the value of these reunions until recently. More…

The Spark of Impeachment Has Been Lit

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com and sign up for your free e-newsletter The spark of impeachment has been lit. All over the country people are moving, organizing, protesting, passing resolutions, setting up web sites, wearing ImpeachBush.org t-shirts, sweatshirts, and caps, and placing bumper stickers on their cars. "September 15 March on Washington" committees are being set up in communities around the country. The ImpeachBush.org movement is uniting again with the anti-war movement to demand Impeach Bush, End the War Now! Tens of thousands will descend on Washington DC at the very moment that the national and international media will be focusing on General Petraeus’ report to Congress, which is being issued on September 15. More…

Do Your Friends Make You Fat?

Come visit me at www.MenAlive.com, sign up for my free e-newsletter and receive your free copy of my latest e-booklet. The latest estimates are that unless we make significant changes in how we eat, 70% of women and 90% of men will become overweight during our life-times. Though there are a lot of reasons we gain weight including genetics, stress, lack of exercise, readily available high-fat foods, corporate greed, etc., a new study suggests that weight gain my be contagious. We may be picking up those extra pounds as a result of our social interactions with friends and family. And this is no "pop" psych study. Published in the New England Journal of Medicine, it involved a detailed analysis of a large social network of 12,067 people who had been closely followed for 32 years, from 1971 until 2003. Here’s what they found. More…