RinattaParies

How to Succeed Trying Again to Make Your Relationship Work

Many couples go through struggles, fights, problems, issues and almost get to the brink of a break-up or divorce. Yet they love each other, are attached to each other, or are not ready to give up on what may be true love, so they try again. But unless they know what they are doing, the trying again will fail and end in another breakup and heartbreak. Here is how to try again successfully. More…

How To Let Your Ex Go

Have you experienced a relationship that didn't work but felt deeply right, as if it was true love? If this is also the relationship and the partner who broke your heart, chances are you are still having trouble fully moving on. Here is how to let your ex go with love and grace. More…

How to change a life

How does a person change his or her life, career, relationship situation, weight, financial situation, education, and so on? On the surface the answer is deceptively simple. The person changes what he or she does. Change the action, and you will change your situation. Yet many, many people know just what action they should take to change their situation, but somehow never manage to take that action. Take the More…

Things Not to Do if You Want to be Considered a Great Catch

It’s time for a list. Today’s list is brought to you by years of listening to singles talk about what they want in a relationship, how they evaluate potential partners and why they might reject a potential partner. Today’s list is an “absolutely do not do these things under any circumstances if you want a relationship” kind of list for singles. Enjoy and let me know what you think. More…

He walls-up. What do I do?

Here is an excerpt from an article titled "All is Well.’ I wrote it for a third age blog. You can read the whole article here. "What if you were in a marriage that wasn't working, and instead of being stressed and depressed you told yourself, and made yourself believe, that you will be taken care of and it will all turn out well? Perhaps you would stay calm through the crisis and get clarity about what you need to do in order to make the situation turn out well. Or what if you were single and instead of having a negative reaction every time you date someone who is not for you, you told yourself that you will be taken care of and it will all turn out well? Perhaps you would just move on, unfazed, and keep meeting new people until you met the right one." This article generated the following question and my follow-up: Q: Jaci asks: On the relationship part of this - - - I recently tried the "All is well" thing. My fiancé never talks about his feelings so if he gets mad at me More…

Feeling good all the time -- is it possible?

If you are involved in personal or spiritual growth, you know there is a large part of the personal growth movement teaching the philosophy of “how you know something is right is that it feels good.” Do pain, misery, suffering, and despair have any value, or are they signs that things are terribly wrong? Can something feel bad or wrong and yet still be the right thing to do? Let’s look. More…

Making sense of Katrina

Relationships are on my mind this week, but so is Hurricane Katrina. As the disaster started, I resisted watching much of the news coverage for fear of being overwhelmed with the images of the disaster and the heartbreak. Then I succumbed, seeking out information and getting inundated over and over with painful images of suffering. I kept feeling that giving money is not enough; even going to the hurricane region would not be enough. I don’t know what would make me feel as if I were doing enough. More…

Vanishing Partners

There have been so many comments to my last post,  “Compatibility criteria alone will not help you find true love”, and the subsequent question by Robin, that I decided to move the discussion and comments to a new post. Here is Robin’s post/question, on August 26th, 2005 at 1:54 pm: "I was abruptly abandoned by my lover of nine years 15 months ago. Things had not been perfect for the last months of our relationship, but I had no clue that he was contemplating something so drastic. He simply disappeared. None of our friends saw it coming. It devastated me. More…

All is well

More and more lately I have been thinking about and looking at the power of thought and emotion in how I live life and in helping my clients with their relationship woes. For example, yesterday I lost my purse. It’s kind of silly and incomprehensible the way it happened. I was at my doctor’s office. I must have put it down to fill out paper work and forgot to bring it with me into the exam room. When I went to leave, I realized I didn’t have it. The staff and I searched the office up and down. It was gone. In the past I would have been racked with guilt and shame about such a thing. Then I would have been stressed out. Then freaked out. But I didn’t do any of that. Instead More…

Compatibility criteria alone will not help you find true love

I am sorry, but I have to rant. I was watching TV the other day while working out on my glider and a commercial by a popular online dating service came on. The owner claimed that true love can finally be found at blah, blah dating service because they match people on their compatibility criteria. Couples of all shapes and sizes happily waltzed through the commercial, in love, in bliss. More…