One Woman's Story: 'Being a Mom in My 40s is Great'

Rosemary Fitzpatrick (45), from Belfast, U.K., a practice manager with Knox & Clayton Architects in Lisburn, is Mom to nine-month-old Rachael. She says:

"I suppose I haven't become a Mom until my 40s because I just hadn't met anyone that I wanted to start a family with. I met my husband Graham quite late and we lived together for a couple of years and got married when I was 40.

"I got pregnant shortly after we married, but miscarried. I just thought after that 'if it happens, great, and if it doesn't then that's what is meant to be'. Still, motherhood is just great. Rachael is nine and a half months now and I'm getting ready to go back to work next week.

"It is very tiring getting up in the middle of the night and I'm sure if I was 20 years younger I would probably have more energy. It has given me a new lease of life. I see mums in their late 20s having their third or fourth child and taking it all in their stride and I suppose because I am older I do think more deeply about it and worry about little things like if she is sleeping ok, if she is too hot or too cold, but again that's just me.

"We haven't had a night out since Rachael was born and so I have been doing my socialising during the day, meeting friends for coffee. I think you need to keep in touch with your friends or you would go a little bit mad. I suppose being an older Mom I am more content in that I have done everything I wanted to and can devote my time to Rachael, knowing I am not missing out on anything.

"My only regret is that because of my age we wouldn't risk having another one and so she will grow up an only child. For that reason I think it is ok to go back to work and put Rachael in a creche where she will meet other children."

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