Summer Reflections for Empty Nesters And Boomers

Changes are around the corner again this summer for empty nest boomers. Vacation time, goodbyes, celebrations, and moving into new roles with your family. Now is a good time to reflect about what you want to remember about the role you played as your family grew, and you grew with it.

We forget to stop and reflect about the value we have added to the people in our lives. Is it your smile? Is it your ability to sincerely listen? Are you a great problem solver, organizer, or teacher? Do you get back up when you fall, ask for help, or say exactly what you are feeling? You might be a combination. Whatever your traits, you are an irreplaceable part of your family.

If tears fall because of the transition your family is going through, let them drop. Feel what you need to feel. Make plans for nurturing yourself by asking, "What did I used to do for fun? What helps me shift when I am down? What is frightening right now? Who can support me?"

With your family's changes, you are going to have to learn to FOCUS BACK ON YOURSELF. You have been there for others for decades and it structured your time and mind, as well as your heart. Your turn now to slowly reflect, appreciate you, and begin to wonder what will be next for you.

A mother shared with me that she doesn't want to think about the end of summer because of her children leaving again. She dreads those feelings of emptiness and uncertainty. She doesn't like the silence and the not knowing how her children are doing. Sometimes our anxiety is bigger than what we think we can handle. It doesn't mean we like the situation, but REFLECTING on times we have made it through a challenge builds that muscle.

About the Author:

Natalie Caine, the founder of Empty Nest Support Services, writes and speaks about the joys and challenges of transition. For more information, visit: www.emptynestsupport.com.