All Dating Q&A

I have been in a relationship with a man for 3-1/2 years. At the same time he started dating me, he also started dating another woman, and over the years he has continued to have a relationship with the two of us. He says he loves us both and doesn’t want to give up either of us. We are all divorced after long marriages, and are intelligent, educated and successful professionals. We all hate the situation, including him! The other woman and I share equal time as if it was a custody arrangement, and have NEVER seen each other at the same time and never will. Neither of us dates anyone else. This is making all of us depressed, angry and sad, but we don’t seem to be able to stop. Have you had experience with any similar relationships? Do you have any advice?

I've been seeing a man who lives 800 miles away for 3.5 years. So far, things have been good with the usual relationship ups and downs - we're both in our late 50's. We are even presently negotiating his moving here with me in the Northeast, but we do have one sticky wicket. I am a very spiritual person. I am a Wiccan as was my mother and her mother before her. We are good and wise people albeit different in our approach to religion and God. My boyfriend struggles with my choice of spirituality; he claims to be Christian but is non-practicing. However, he tells me he is afraid of my spiritual path and that he feels it would be hard for us to forge a strong bond based on such differing religious attitudes; otherwise our relationship is well, magical! I think he's just nervous about moving and leaving his family, never having lived anywhere outside the Midwest.

He knew what I practiced when we first met. Still he brings this problem up whenever we get into a tight space; it's a hard one to debate. I even told him I'd be willing to explore other religious paths with him if necessary, even though it's not my preference. I know we love each desperately, but he seems to see this as a problem that is very hard to solve. What can I do?

My wife passed away seven months ago and now I'm dating two women -- both 20 years younger than me. Is it too soon to date or get intimate? I have told both women that I don't want to get married. Should I continue to see both, choose one or stop dating altogether?