'I Found Love Letters to My Husband From Another Woman'

He told me he wouldn't have been able to go on as long as he did without my support. But when I was going through his things, I discovered love letters from another woman.

It seems they had an affair 20 years ago that lasted six years. I am shattered. How could he have done this to me? I can't stop crying and everyone thinks it is grief. But it's anger. Everything we had was a lie.

ANSWER: Everything you shared was not a lie.

Yes, he let you down by having a relationship with someone else. He shouldn't have done it. But he chose to stay with you. Then you had another 20 good years together.

Try to remember the happy times. But you're still entitled to be angry with him. In fact, for the bereaved, grief and anger often walk hand in hand.

So call him a few choice names and smash some cups if you like. But never forget that you loved him -- which is why you care as much as you do.

Source: Just Joan, Daily Record; Glasgow (UK). Powered by YellowBrix, Inc.