'Torn Between Two Lovers'

We'd loved each other since school days and were together for nearly 40 years. I'm 61.

To cheer me up, a friend suggested I go on [vacation] with him, and that's where I met a woman my age who's also widowed. We've seen each other several times since we've been home and we get [along] really well.

We haven't had sex yet, because she doesn't feel ready, but I have been having sex with another woman, aged 40, who makes me feel like a young man again.

I had been working for her as a carpenter and she made the first move. Before her, my wife was the only woman who knew me sexually.

Both women know about each other and want me to choose, but each makes me happy in different ways. What should I do?

ANSWER: You seem to have the best of all worlds -- sex on tap and good companionship, although not all in one package.

Having these women in your life has obviously helped you cope with your loss and the emotional and sexual loneliness, boosted your self-esteem, and eased you back into the world.