How to Get Past A Breakup

When a relationship that is important to us ends, it’s difficult on many levels. This is true even you’re the one who initiated it. You’re now facing the world alone. If you didn’t initiate the breakup, it can be even harder. You may not have even seen it coming, and you feel a great sense of rejection.. Whatever happened, there are several things you can do to help ease the pain.

Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions you’re experiencing. Your feelings may range and fluctuate between hurt, sadness, disappointment, or anger. Trying to fight off your feelings and “get on with it” will not work.Yes, you are bruised, and  this is a time to be caring and nurturing to yourself. Yes, it is the time for treats and a few indulgences. 

Give yourself permission to count on others. Having someone (or several people) with whom you feel safe to be yourself during this healing period will be very comforting. Support will be most valuable if you let them know how you’d like to be taken care of. You may want them to. just listen or get you out of the house or offer their insights. Let them know what you need. 

Use visualizations to release feelings. Use your imagination to convey feelings you’d like to express to the person who is no longer your partner. But keep it imaginary. Real conflict will not make you feel better.