Married With (Grown) Children

ANSWER: You are to be commended for taking your children's feelings into account. However, your decision should be based on your desires and happiness. You both need to learn why your children object to your remarriage.

Talk to your children about your feelings, why you want to marry and their objections. They should respect your desire for companionship and happiness. Assure your children that you still will have time for them and be involved in their lives.

One thing you can do is have a prenuptial agreement stating that each of your assets would pass directly to your own heirs. A lawyer can help you be very specific about your needs.

You and your friend could hold a "Heritage Day" with your children, a time when they could gather at your home and mark items that they would like to inherit. They could make a list or put their names on particular pieces. Perhaps this would give them peace of mind that sentimental or valuable items remain in your family.