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1. Use Flattery
Flattery is to flirting what a match is to dynamite. Explosive. So to refine the power of flattery, you must be sincere. Expert, mutually rewarding flattery is harder to pull off than most people think. Here are some guidelines:
- Figure out what strikes you about this person.
- What potentially flattering statements would he or she most like to hear from
someone else? What area of his or her person, accomplishments, or activities have not been totally confirmed by society?
- Once you determine this, use it.
Flattery is most effective when there is an element of surprise. When someone doesn't expect the compliment. Telling a CEO that he is "doing great things for his company" is nice. But saying that you "love his sense of humor and his smile" will make his day. The first compliment he knows himself, the second he may suspect, but the fact that you mentioned this is delightful and surprising.
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