Ask Dr. Betty Polston, the Midlife Relationships Expert

My partner and I have recently been having problems getting close sexually and we can't figure out what to do. We love each other very much and want to have good sex, the kind we used to have. Can you help us improve our lovemaking? --L.



Dear L.,

You want renewed passion and a richer and more intensely pleasurable sex life--that's great! You're already endowed with one of the best ingredients for a fulfilling sex life--you're very much in love.

After time though, love can lose its initial excitement; it can become comfortable, even boring, and we sorely miss the electricity that was once so abundant. But midlife offers us a wonderful opportunity to revitalize. Renewing your sexual relationship can be a healing act.

Remember that sex is just as much a part of your mind and mood as it is of your body. So, let's stimulate your mind and mood: with your love in place, try some or all of the following techniques to bring back the thrill that's presently gone.
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