Ask Dr. Betty Polston, the Midlife Relationships Expert

I recently started working a graveyard shift and see my husband very seldom. I've never been a very sexual person, but lately, I've had these urges and have been masturbating a lot. I also seem to get very excited after a good workout. Do you think there is anything wrong with me and should I continue to masturbate when I feel this strange urge? --C.

Dear C.,

Strange urge? Not so. What you're feeling is perfectly natural. But why now and what do you want to do with your new arousal? What is happening besides the exercise? Knowing that sex is a function of our brains, bodies, and hormones--what is happening at your new job to arouse your brain or body? Is work, or someone at work, so stimulating?

Exercise is very empowering. It produces endorphins--hormones that circulate throughout our bodies and make us feel oh-so-good. The result can be a greater need to gratify our sexual selves, which is what you are experiencing.

Pleasuring yourself is also empowering. It allows you to feel your sexuality, engage in an act of "self love," offer sexual release, and discover how your body responds. If you choose to, you can transfer this information to the sexual relationship you have with your husband.
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