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Q&A This Week
My husband confessed his affair to me last August, but things are currently better than ever. Unfortunately, I now seem to want to make the other woman's life miserable. I do not want to physically harm her, just to tell her parents and everyone at her workplace what a tramp she is.
How can I get over this anger at her for backstabbing me? I've thought about some outside counseling, but feel it is unnecessary because of my religious beliefs. I cannot seek counseling with my pastor, because he is my father. Any suggestions? --T.
Steve says:
You implied that your religious beliefs are part of your foundation. Now, as always, is the best time to take them seriously. If life is a spiritual training program, get with the program.
For openers, take a lesson from the young nun who goes to the mother superior and cries out, "Mother, I'm so stressed! What should I do?"
The mother superior tells her, not surprisingly, "Pray, my child."
But the nun, being young and impetuous, answers back, "I've tried that, and besides, I'm so busy lately. Any other suggestions?"
To which the mother superior reflects for a moment, rubs her chin thoughtfully, and responds, "Well, in that case, pray double."
I love that story because it's typically when I feel that I don't have the time or energy to slow down and pray or meditate that I need to do so the most. God (or Spirit, Mother Nature, Higher Power, etc.) is a great antidote for stress, depression, anxiety and, yes, angry fantasies. So get with the program, tune in, and "give it to God."
Regarding professional help, there are many Christian counselors these days, and a trained adviser can help.
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