Q&A This Week
Lately, my husband of 17 years doesn't seem to have the desire to have sex with me. Or we maybe have sex once a month. He also has a very bad habit of looking at other girls, especially while we drive. When I get upset about it, he just simply denies that he is doing it. I love him so much, but sometimes I think that I am trying too hard for his attention. Could this be a lot of worry for nothing? --L.H.
The Bottom Line From Cathy and Steve:
1. It's normal for men to look at other women. Don't take it personally.
2. After 17 years together, be realistic about your sex life. Periods of stress and boredom are par for the course.
3. Get excited about life yourself, and sometimes your partner will get turned on by the new you as well.
4. Talk and listen your way to better sex. Communication can clear up misunderstandings and open up new avenues for sexual intimacy and passion.
Members say:
I was in your situation and still don't know why my ex had such a low sex drive. I had to initiate (sex), it was one of his "rules." It wasn't that I was unattractive, unresponsive or anything like that either. In hindsight, I believe that his withholding sex was a power play, a way to hold something over me and control me. I've been divorced for three years now, and happily. It's not ever easy, but sometimes absolutely necessary. There IS love out there, but make sure you take the time to heal. --TANNEDANGEL What's your opinion? Chime in >
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