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Pleasures of Marriage
ThirdAge: What would you say the deepest pleasures are that long-term marriage brings? In both of your opinions.
Cokie: There is such pleasure in long-term marriage that I really would hate to be my age and not have had a long-term marriage. The finishing of each other's sentences, the sense of shared everything, of shared history, the sense of comfort, and that doesn't mean there's no romance and fun.
Beyond that--we were having a conversation just before you got here about how somebody that we know was having some problem with her family versus his family. And I just said, "You two haven't been married long enough." Because at some point, it ceases being "his family" or "his problem." It becomes "our problem" and all family becomes our family. In a long marriage, it's all ours. Like it or not. [Laughs]
Steve: We're very grateful for the blessings, and our children are very much a part of that. We had dinner last night with our daughter who lives here in San Francisco, and who in fact is in the media. The pure joy of seeing this young woman at her age in a happy marriage and a successful career, but beyond that reveling in her personality, her?
Cokie: Womanhood. [Laughs]
Steve: It's hard to say that there's anything else in life that's more satisfying than that. I don't think there's anybody in the world I would have rather had dinner with last night than this young woman.
Cokie: Right.
Steve: And that's very much a part of the joy of a long marriage--seeing your children go through the stages of life that you remember.
Cokie: Kinda... [Laughs] Next: Communication & Common Ground >
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