Top 5 Reasons Sex Can Get Better With Age |
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1. Greater Sexual Experience & Expertise
By the time most people reach midlife, they know what turns them on and how to please their partner. "One of the bright spots of midlife sex is that many of us are much more sexually skilled at 40 than we were in our early 20s," notes Ted McIlvenna, Ph.D., M.Div., sexologist and director of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Sexuality in San Francisco, CA.
Partners may begin taking their sex lives to a higher level, Dr. McIlvenna says, by first being aware that they can keep discovering new ways to turn each other on, and by openly discussing sexual wants, needs, and fantasies. "If people in midlife can be honest enough to admit that they want to become more sexually skilled, then they stand to discover many options for pleasure," says Dr. McIlvenna.
"Devote more time to sex by going to bed earlier and spending the night just kissing, stroking, massaging, and cuddling each other without going farther," says Dr. McIlvenna. "It can feel very fulfilling and adventurous to learn new ways of pleasuring each other without having to deal with the performance anxiety that intercourse often creates." Sexual performance should be redefined to include intercourse as just another option, rather than the goal of each encounter, Dr. McIlvenna says. When lovers develop performance expertise, this fosters more than just physical fulfillment; it also helps create new emotional bonds and intimacies. Next >
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