Top 5 Reasons Sex Can Get Better With Age

"Think sexual thoughts, feel sexual feelings, learn to play, and play with each other," says Marilyn Lawrence, Ph.D., Executive Director of the American College of Sexologists. Dr. Lawrence, a sex therapist and sexologist based in Los Angeles, CA., offers down-to-earth advice on enriching midlife sex: "Experimenting sexually helps people lighten up, feel new sensations and avoid worrying. Experimenting fosters a sense of fun and helps keep sex from getting serious."

Another secret is to find the sensory mode that works best for you. For example, some individuals or couples are more excited by visual stimulation than any other kind, so they watch erotic films. Others study illustrated massage manuals for new ideas about how and where to touch each other. Lots of midlife lovers get turned on by reading erotica. And some adventurers use sex toys to revel in Himalayan-sized orgasms without sexual penetration.

Those people who feel like they need discreet and professional help with their sex lives may choose to see a sex therapist or sexologist. They may locate one through organizations such as The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (415-928-1133). How do you know if you should see a sex therapist or sexologist? "When you think that you can't find your way out of this problem," says Dr. Lawrence, "it's time to see somebody." And, while psychotherapy won't improve your sex life, Dr. Lawrence notes that, "Psychotherapy can be really helpful in areas which eventually affect the physical, so you may want to consider that, as well." Next >

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