Top 5 Reasons Sex Can Get Better With Age

"You have to make your sex life a high priority," and you and your partner need to get back in touch with what attracted you to each other in the early stages of your relationship, adds Dr. Lawrence. This invariably leads to sexual discoveries and renewed intimacy.

To ensure your sex life holds a high priority, sit down with your partner and "budget" your free time so that it includes plenty of romantic interludes. While some couples keep standing dates for sex with each other several times a week, others have schedules that make sex possible only on the weekends. The point is to keep sex on your schedule and to abandon yourself to it completely when you have the time.

Couples often assume they know their partner's sexual preferences, observes Dr. Bancroft. "You should never take that for granted," he says, as "people change from day to day; their functioning changes." Having sex more frequently helps couples discover more aspects of each other's emotional and erotic territory. "In midlife," Dr. Bancroft continues, "when you're growing older, the value of sex, the need for sex, the importance of sex...gets redefined. Pleasure gives way to the importance of intimacy with one's partner; that's what we increasingly need." Couples who may have gotten out of the habit of being lovers due to parenting demands can finally re-engage as a romantic team, says Dr. Bancroft.

"Sex can get better as you get older," says Dr. Lawrence. "I expected in my own life that it wouldn't get better, but it has gotten good. There's no reason why not." Next >

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