15-Second Man

Dear Suzie,

How can I stop from having quick orgasms? Sometimes I ejaculate after 15 seconds! --A.

Dear A.,

You're not alone. In fact, it's reported that up to 75 percent of all men ejaculate within two to five minutes of beginning intercourse. The hurry-up techniques may be a result of many things, including guilty feelings, fear of getting caught self-pleasuring, being out-of-touch with their bodies, and honesty or trust issues with their partners. And, very often men have just trained themselves to come too quickly.

There's good news, though! Tantrics and Taoists have developed simple (and fun!) techniques to help train men to last longer. And that's your mission -- training.

Should you choose to accept this mission, it will require:

You and your partner are about to embark on a wonderfully fulfilling journey that is remarkably easy for most men. I qualify this because there are some men who need to see a specialist -- whether a psychologist or a urologist -- for problems related to premature ejaculation.

Space here doesn't allow for a full lesson plan, but the basic idea is to practice simply lasting longer. Begin with self-pleasuring that, on a scale of 1 to 10, stops every time you reach an 8 or 9. Relax and breathe deeply into your belly for a few minutes, then start again.

This will require some self-restraint at first, but the results are well worth it. Bring your focus and willpower to bear. You'll very soon understand that if you can avoid going over-the-top, you'll actually be experiencing orgasmic-like pleasure without coming. And most men see significant results in just two weeks of practice. This might encompass six focused workouts.

When you have intercourse with your partner, start the process over. You'll need to pause and rest when you reach that 8 or 9. This time, though, you'll be able to stop yourself because your body and mind will be working together.

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Learn about Kama Sutra, Tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Heumann, president at Tantra.com.