Whatever thoughts are in their minds, they vanish completely with the onslaught of passionate embrace. When a man and woman are all in oneness, thus clasped together, there is nothing in the whole world to surpass the superb joy of that moment.
-- Kama Sutra
Ah, in a perfect world this is the way it would be. We would be so in love that we couldn't wait to see each other, to smother each other in kisses and caresses, to tell each other of our day with all its intimate hurts and little glories.
The reality isn't as romantic. Sometimes long-term relationships begin to develop into more of a basic support system than a loving, growing, vital partnership. We begin to discount touch, care, clear communication, trust, truth-telling and sensual and sexual activity. The daily grind runs our lives and relationships.
If you find yourself in this situation with your lover, it may feel impossible to create a new vision of your loving connection. By stepping back and envisioning another set of possibilities, however, you can make profound transformations to your marriage or relationship.
The Kama Sutra and the tenets of Tantric philosophy taught that love is a profound vehicle to conscious, ecstatic living. Practices included not only a complete set of positions, but elaborate techniques for kissing, hugging, holding, speaking and conducting oneself in an honorable manner.
Expand your relationship's boundaries by incorporating Tantric practices into your daily lives. How? One easy idea is to spend five minutes every morning and every evening spooning. The woman should lay on her side with her partner just behind her and his hand over her heart. The woman sets the pace of breathing, slowly and consciously. This practice aids in putting us into a common space and rhythm from which to relate to one another.Secondly, practice telling the truth with your partner. When we say what's in our hearts in a vulnerable, non-blaming way, compassion and caring show up in place of hurt. Introduce a new playful experience into your lovemaking. Blindfold your partner and treat him or her to an hour of sensual pleasuring. Tantric philosophy has us take risks to explore the realms of conscious growing. Risk something -- tell a truth, try something new, give where you haven't before, or make a seemingly unreasonable request that will actually delight your partner.Learn about Kama Sutra, tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Heumann at Tantra.com. - - - - -Are you enjoying the full and pleasurable sex life you deserve? Take the quiz.