It’s okay to admit it. You’d like to try out some sex toys. You’d at least like to see some sex toys, if only to find out for yourself what all the fuss is about. Maybe your closest friends have bragged about having the best orgasms of their lives thanks to their Vibratex Magic Wands. Or you just read that sexy novel, “50 Shades of Grey,” and while you’re not sure about spanking or nipple clips, the idea of owning (and using!) a pair of quick-release hand cuffs does make your heart skip a beat.
Sex toys – and that includes lubricants, massage oils, arousal creams, and every flavor of joy gel – are a fun, safe, and relatively easy way to jazz up your sex life. Whether you’re using these toys alone or with a partner, enhancers such as dildos and vibrators, can turn you on to new experiences and arouse you to greater levels of personal pleasure. And while it used to be a bit tricky to safely and anonymously buy these goods, thanks to the miracle of the internet, anyone with a credit card and a computer or Smart phone can now buy adult toys any time of night or day.
As the new millennium begins to settle in, one thing is certain. Personal pleasure is out of the closet. Visit almost any chain drug store and discover an entire array of feminine lubricants intended for sexual use displayed right out in the open on the pharmacy shelf. Many health food stores also carry sweet almond oil, the most inexpensive and effective feminine lubricant of all. Speaking of lubricants, this is one area where it makes sense to go with the most natural product. With all the new information about cosmetics that contain carcinogens, it’s wise to avoid any lubricants flavored or scented with artificial or chemical products.
While many on-line sex toy websites now cater to customers who shy away from anything that resembles a sleazy porn shop, keep in mind that what might seem shocking at first, once you start shopping, invites healthy curiosity. Easy to navigate sex toy shops that won’t offend are Freddy and Eddy’s Sex-E-Shop, as well as well as the the ever-popular and female run Natural Contours featuring ergonomically designed intimate feminine products. All these on-line shopping experiences are private and discreet.
While shopping on line is the ultimate in discreet, it also is a step removed from a hands-on experience. Many adult toy stores now openly invite female business. Babeland in New York City and Los Angeles’s Coco de Mer are rockin’ the genre with their boutiques. Featuring beautifully hand crafted glass and stainless steel products and gorgeous lingerie, these stores are a far cry from the dirty back room XXX shops from the last century. Chances are, there’s a fun and friendly sex shop not far from your home. Most neighborhood sex shops are staffed with knowledgeable and friendly people who are happy to answer questions and guide you to what you’re looking for. Whether it’s a pair of edible panties or a leather collar and cuffs, adding sex toys to your repertoire is bound to pay off.
So what are you waiting for? Start checking out the merch.
Eve Marx frequently writes about sex for ThirdAge.