Expert Advice: How Can I Reignite My Husband's Passion for Me?

Now my husband hardly ever comes near me for sex. If I'm lucky, we have sex once a month, and it's all over very quickly.

I've caught him looking at pretty girls, and I'm worried he doesn't find me attractive anymore.

When I approach him about it, he says my imagination is working overtime, and I'm the only one for him.

I don't want to lose him to me one younger and sexier, but I don't know what to do to get him interested again. I know I have put on a bit of weight, but I'm not enormous and try to dress fashionably.

I love my husband as much as the day I married him 25 years ago. What am I doing wrong?

ANSWER: It's pretty normal for men tolook at other women, so don't get agitated [thinking that] he'ssearching for your replacement. I'm sure he's not.

You may have unrealistic expectations about what your sex lifeshould be like after 25 years of marriage. A relationship that beginswith the emotional high of passion and lust is a bit like a Ferrariraring to go, but it's impossible to sustain that kind of momentum.

He might be going through a natural lull in his desire due to stress, tiredness, even boredom. Don't take it personally.

If your sex life has become routine with the same old moves, youneed to shake it up a bit. Give him two ideas you've thought of toincrease pleasure during sex, and ask him if he has any suggestions orfantasies he'd like to try.