Expert Advice Q&A: She Can't Achieve Orgasm during Intercourse

QUESTION: I'm a woman who has absolutely wonderful orgasms all the time from manual or oral stimulation, but never from just intercourse. Is there something wrong with me?

ANSWER: No, nothing's wrong with you. In fact, you're the majority and only about 25 percent of women always have an orgasm during sex, and only a minority of women are able to have orgasms through intercourse or vaginal stimulation alone.

The primary location of sexual excitement for most women is the clitoris. Even among those women who can have orgasms from intercourse, it's usually due to indirect stimulation of the clitoris. Some women do have orgasms from G-Spot (or even nipple) stimulation alone, but they're rare, and your situation is actually the norm!

So, what do you do? First, relax -- what you're experiencing is completely natural. Of course, you can make sure to get additional stimulation before, during or after intercourse -- whether manually, orally, or otherwise. If you want to try to have an orgasm during intercourse, you can also stimulate yourself or have your partner stimulate you simultaneously.

What's most important is that you enjoy being with your partner (which it sounds like you do), and not try to force something to happen. Be happy that you're able to have orgasms easily, and pursue them in whatever way works for you!