Expert Advice: Should She Settle for Mediocre Sex?
I have a partner five years younger, and our sex life has been mildly adventurous compared to the dreary time I had with my husband. I've tried oral sex, and we had great sex in the shower.
Even so, I rarely climax with my partner. I would like to have an open, frank discussion with him about my sexual needs and about the possibility of spicing up our sex life even more.
But I'm too embarrassed at my age to raise the subject. I suppose there's still a part of me that sees sex as dirty and not something I should enjoy.
Maybe I should be grateful for small mercies and not rock the boat. Do you agree I must accept this is the best sex I can get?
ANSWER: No. Every woman has the right andresponsibility to ask for what she wants because she deserves equalsatisfaction and pleasure. A woman who loves sex and who is sexuallyactive isn't bad. Nice girls are allowed to enjoy sex, too.
Men love a woman who knows what she wants in bed -- or the shower.
We spend a lot of time thinking about sex, but not nearly as much talking about it.
While some couples enjoy sex talk as part of their flirting andlovemaking, for many others, talking about it in a truthful andintimate way with the person they're having sex with is a major hurdle.