How Much Sex Do You Really Need?
The message that he is putting out there is that not all gay men are hyper-sexual and that, yes, one can survive quite nicely even when not immersed in relationships and the bodies of partners. Tim Gunn has not spoken the unspeakable. He has simply spoken out loud
And he has spoken out loud for a multitude of men and women who have chosen to be celibate for a number of reasons including religious, health, and lifestyle reasons. There are no clear numbers available about the number of men and women who choose to abstain from sex. From speaking to and reading about men and women both in and out of relationships, however, it is clear that sex is NOT a priority on everyone's list of to-do activities. Some people would rather focus their energy on work and exercise. Yet others simply have low sexual desire. The entire spectrum of sexual activity from none to a great deal is within the normal spectrum.
The good news is that individuals and relationships can thrive either without the sexual component and can flourish with lots of body contact. The key is for both members of a couple to be matched on the level of desire. There is no such thing as a normal amount of sexual activity despite the results of studies that ask couples how frequently they have sex. Studies give us averages that are based on a wide range of responses, including 0 times per week to daily sex.
The bottom line is to define the level of sexuality that works for you and to live by that standard.
Dr. Barbara Greenberg is the co-author of the hit book, "Teenage as a Second Language: A Parent's Guide to Becoming Bilingual." Check out her interactive website for parents and teens to listen, learn and discuss hot topics and daily dilemmas. You can find it at www.talkingteenage.com.