Every lover in every relationship will come to the place of wanting more -- more intimacy, sexual activity and creativity. In a maturing relationship, we tend to stop exploring and being inventive. We reach the limits of our personal knowledge and experience and begin to desire something new and different, yet without knowing how to create it. Unreasonable fantasies, avoidance of sexual activity, lack of intimacy or even separation can be the consequences of a simple lack of innovation.
Tantra has a lot to offer long-term couples who wish for more out of their relationship. When we can break out of the old patterns we've gotten into and learn new ways of being -- physically, spiritually and emotionally -- we expand and open. This builds more trust in ourselves, in our partners, and in our relationships.
One of the easiest -- and most fun -- ways to get creative with your lovemaking is to step out of the bedroom when it's time to get down to business. Atmosphere and setting play a role in the attitude and sentiment you bring to the experience. A slight bit of risk -- like making love in your backyard or on the kitchen table during breakfast -- can add excitement to your life and you just may find yourself in the mood a little more often.
Once you get started exploring new lovemaking locations, you'll get even more creative. What've got to lose? Here are a few suggestions to spice things up:Make love in the bathroom. Draw the bath with essential oils and bubbles, then add some candles and music. Either before or after you bathe, spread a soft, warm towel on the counter or put a big pillow in the dry sink. Each one of you should then climb up for some great oral sex. You can use specially made oral treats to spread on your lover's thighs or penis. Cleanup is extra easy -- just jump into the tub!Make love in the hot tub. Under the stars...what more could you ask for? Water doesn't make the best lubricant, though, so have a little lube handy for more sensual slipperiness. Use the side of the hot tub with an upper seat for oral sex, or lean your partner over the edge for rear-entry positions. Since water makes us weightless, you can get into some very unique positions!The living room offers some great nooks and curves for sex. The arm of an over-stuffed couch creates a good backrest or padded surface for leaning over. The arms of a chair provide the perfect place to rest your legs for oral sex or intercourse. A hassock is wonderful for the classic Yab-Yum position in Tantra. With both partners in an upright position, the man's penis will be more upright, too -- especially good for G-spot stimulation!Give your partner oral sex while they're working. Imagine sitting at your desk working on that article or database for work, when all of a sudden your partner asks you if he can lift your skirt while you work. Erotic, yes? This could lead to a longer break than you might expect!Try the classics. Have you ever made love in front of the fire with a plush rug, champagne and your lover? If you haven't, then do. The benefits are apparent! Get out into nature. The Kama Sutra suggests that couples watch animals mate. You can go on an outing to the zoo first, if you'd like, but then go back home to try out your new ideas! Mimic the way tigers make love, or maybe the snakes. By watching animals you'll get more into your own animal nature. You can even try a little roaring and growling! Making deeper sounds than usual can lead to a more explosive orgasmic experience.Try a love swing. If you have privacy in your yard, hang it under a large tree or patio roof. A warm summer night would be just the time. When it's cold out, just move the swing indoors. Love swings are wonderful for helping train men in better ejaculation mastery, and they add real fun and exploration to the act of making love. The Kama Sutra praises exploration and creativity within a partnership. And, you'll appreciate your house so much more after you have explored and discovered each of its rooms' hidden possibilities. Each place will have memories that will be lasting and titillating. It'll be your little secret -- together!
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