Man vs Woman: Sexuality and Sex Differences

Are men and women more alike or different sexually? It seems the politically correct response is that we are similar in our sexual needs and wants. And of course, that is true. We all want to be loved, we want to be appreciated, we want to admire and respect our partner. Nonetheless, it has become clear to me over the years that masculinity and femininity are very different sexual energies. Lets look at the facts. In general, mens sex drive is higher. They masturbate more, watch more porn, desire more frequent sex with a wider variety of partners and positions, and engage in more fetish behaviors.

Women, however, have a greater capacity for sexual pleasure. Women have the potential for multiple orgasms, longer orgasms with more muscle contractions, and they can have sex as often as they like without having to give their bodies a rest. And this is just the beginning. Women rely on much more than their bodily response to interpret a sexual experience. They focus more on feelings than men do, while men typically focus on performance issues. For women, a lack of spontaneous sexual desire is considered in the realm of normal particularly among older women and women in long-term relationships.

Females are the more receptive sex in all species, females must be open and cooperative for intercourse to take place. In contrast, for sex to be successful, males of all species must assert themselves. Of course, there are exceptions to all these generalizations. But as a sex therapist working in this field for many years, I can assure you they are for the most part true. How do you feel about these realities? How do you experience them in your romantic relationship? Wed like to hear from you.

About the Author:

Marianne Brandon, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the president and director of Wellminds Wellbodies LLC, a center for integrative and holistic psychological care in Annapolis, Maryland. The co-author of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys for Finding Your Lost Libido, Dr. Brandon is also a Diplomat in Sex Therapy through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Her next book, Monogamy: The Untold Story, will be published in September.

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