Men: Heavier Women Better in Bed

The more important is how woman behave in bed, how much thurst she shows for sex, the weight and age does not matter.

Who really cares about what these polls suggest. It all comes down to indivual preferences. I also feel very strongly that magazines, media, and "society" have less of an impact on our choices than we give the credit for. Look around your family, you neighborhood, your schools... these influences are much stronger, especially during our formative years.

In my experience, it is women who judge other women the hardest. In college one of my Psych Professor's, a female, spoke to "societies" influence on women and body image. Her take was that all men wanted skinny twig-like girls, and that women suffer through attempting to achieve this impossible physical ideal. "Men want women with little girls bodies" etc. I spoke up, noting that in my opinion, men on average prefer "curvy" or voluptuous women over skinny or "thin" -- and all the guys in the class agreed. I brought up the example of different magazines targeting both male and female readers -- the female fashion magazines are the ones that emphasize "skinny as sexy", while men's magazines such as FHM or Maxim have more curvy, voluptuous women. You would never see an FHM or Maxim model in one of those female fashion magazines - they would be considered "fat" by the female readers. To go even further, the majority of men I know prefer thick and curvy women over the FHM and Maxim models. Its more about proportion than measurements or a certain weight. For example, I have seen women anywhere from 150 to 200lbs that have a wonderful hourglass shape to them - with round hips and full breasts - and even a bit of a soft belly. I would say over 90% of all straight men would find these women sexy. On the other hand I have seen women who think skinny is sexy and have flat butts, no hips and/or no curves of notable mention. Um, yuck. I forget the exact name of the study, but it comes down to proportion - the woman's hip to waist ratio -- regardless of the weight or size -- determines whether men will find them attractive. (it turns out that the majority of men are "ass-men", so bust size did not determine or affect desirability in the study) Just to clarify - I am not into "fat" or "skinny" -- not into "BBW" or "twiggy" -- like most men I fall in between, we prefer real women; with all the wonderful womanly curves and softness that comes with them... yum! :)

I agree that there is a big difference between what people will admit to in a survey and how they actually think or behave. Our cultural messages all say that women must be slender and that for a man a badge of success is to have a young, beautiful woman by his side...and those messages are hard not to internalize for both genders. I think a woman's feelings about her weight have a lot to do with what she projects to men about her desirablility, but I do think it is a rare man who truly appreciates a fuller figured woman. I am very lucky to have found one of them right now. :)

What's that saying? "There are lies, damn lies, and statistics?" Notice how this survey says men don't mind "a couple of extra pounds?" It's ALL in the definition of what constitutes overweight. If the question had been phrased "...someone who's 50lbs over their idea weight" the results would probably have been different.

Polls of all kinds should be taken with a grain of salt. Most of us know how to fill things out to make us "look good and/or healthy" or bend the 'truth' to our way of thinking. And, speaking just for me, I never saw a man look twice at an overweight (what's this couple of pounds? that is not overweight) woman when given a choice or choices. This by the way was when I was in my early 40's twenty plus years ago. I absolutely agree with the poster in regards to extreme obesity (which is disgustingly common in our society) and the fact that it works both ways.

As a middle age male I have to echo one post. Sad but true, yes to sex, no to relationships. Sadly when out and about a guy wants a nice looking lady by his side. That said, I don't think most of us mind a few extra pounds, proportionally distributed. The problem these days is extreme obesity. I don't believe ladies desire this in a guy as well. Works both ways.

When talking with men about this issue, I asked them all, about how they have felt about having sex with an overweight female? All said they have and would jump at the opportunity to do so.... But it's not for the reason that you would think. They have all said they have had sex with an overweight female to boost their own self-esteem... Not to mention, they are easier to " lay" because they are desperate. So, all the crock about " it's all on the inside" is BS. Men have sex with whatever will allow them to mount them.... And normally overweight females have sex and allow themselves to be used to be accepted, by " something".

As an overweight woman, I must say, I am damn good in bed because I love sex and I want to satisfy my partner. If you don't have a compatible sex partner, it doesn't matter what you look like, the sex will not be good.

Actually, the women I have had the best sex with have been quite slender and athletic. The very best are ballet dancers. They tend to be physically strong, energetic and flexible.

There's not much more attractive, appealing, alluring or sexy than a person comfortable with the "skin they're in". I'm blissfully & happily married for over 7 years to a "real sized" woman. The person she is on the inside is more important than what she looks like on the outside, for real. We had the fortunate opportunity to get to know each other inside out. I personally and history shows that men over all prefer women "with a little meat on their bones". More importantly though is attitude,character, morals, spirituality, sensuality, a healthy libido and a sense of humor. But yes, in bed, 'More To Love' is definitely better!

The discrepancy is between a man's brain and his mouth. He wants everyone to perceive him as correct, but he doesn't want to date a portly female. So, yeah, statistically his answer is “Well of course I would, it’s on the inside that counts”, only on his inside he is saying to himself “Not a chance, tubby”. I can’t make it any less shallow than it is, the majority of men like thinner women, but I also think they dislike insecure women. I think if a woman’s attitude about her looks was not directly related to how overweight she believes she is, then the bell curve line where men won’t cross to date heavier women would move over. The comment ‘thin women are more bitchy’ is mostly accurate because the more options you have the less you have to compromise yourself; and regarding dating, men scamper for the hotties. This doesn’t mean the heavier you are the less hot you are, although considering the connection between weight and self esteem, the likes of Kate Moss and whatever else is making a women doubt herself in general it stands to reason the heavier a women is the more insecurely she presents herself. Okay, so … men, stop making things up, nobody is buying it and women, stop compromising yourselves just to get a date because as you’ll find out at the end of the evening, they’re not really worth it anyway.

I interview men for a living and have to say that is the men on here that are the hypocrites! In reality the truth is that men will have no problem having sex with an overweight women, as long as it is a secret, but they generally don't want to have a serious relationship with her, as stated by another reader. Now... if we are really talking about "a couple of pounds" that is a different story and should not make a difference. Most men welcome feminine curves and are rather forgiving. In the past when I asked my boyfriends if they ever had sex with an overweight women, the answer was always yes, which was shockig to me, since I'm a model and in great shape. So basically the answer "should be" Yes, for sex, no for relationships, with a few except- tions as always.... Sexpert

I have been on dating sites such as the ones you listed, and when I put my weight, I never got asked out. When I didn't list my weight and they just saw my picture, some men asked me out, but when they found out I was looking for a relationship and not a one-night stand, they were not interested. The discrepancy is not between what women and men think, but what a lot of men say and what they do...