Missing Out on Orgasms?

QUESTION: I don't think I've ever had an orgasm, and believe I must be missing out. I have had lots of sex with my boyfriend but don't experience the surge of pleasure most people talk about . . . so I'm worried there are things we aren't doing. Can you give us some hints?

ANSWER: Every couple is different, and what they enjoy in bed will vary.

Everybody has areas of their body that are very sensitive to sexual stimulation. The obvious regions for a woman are the breasts, the clitoris and vagina. But many women have other sensitive spots that you might find turn you on. The back of the neck, the knees and even the toes are common erogenous zones.

To find what works for you, do a little exploring on your own. Get comfortable touching your body and discover the areas you enjoy being stroked or caressed.

Armed with this knowledge, take your explorations into the bedroom with your boyfriend. Teach him what you've discovered and ask him to try a few more ideas. You should learn new things about your boyfriend, too, and find ways to give him an extra thrill.

Orgasm is often seen as the pinnacle of sexual achievement, but don't get hung up on trying to achieve it. The experience of orgasm is different for every woman.

Throw your preconceived ideas of what you feel you should be experiencing out of the window and instead, try to enjoy the sensations you do feel together.

Source: Sunday Mirror; London. Powered by Yellowbrix.