Q&A: How Much Masturbation Is Too Much?

Question: As a teenager, I used to masturbate all the time. Then, as I hit my 20s, it started slowing down, until I barely ever masturbated. For some reason, now that I'm in my 50s, I'm finding myself masturbating much more again. So, I guess my question is: How much masturbation is too much?

Answer: Pretty much every sex education textbook in the 1970s and '80s said that masturbation was fine as long as you didn't do it too much. I'm sure this led to millions of people desperately trying to figure out how much was "too much," never getting a definitive answer.

The reality is that there's no number I can give you. For some, once a day might be excessive, while for others, 10 times daily is fine. Whether you're with a partner or not has no bearing. It all comes down to context.

It's not about masturbation per se. Rather, it's about why you're doing it. If you masturbate as a way to give yourself pleasure, release stress, celebrate or any number of healthy reasons, you can do it until the cows come home.

I don't subscribe to the notion of sexual addiction, but I do believe in compulsive sexual behavior. You need to ask yourself whether you enjoy it when you masturbate, or if you're doing it to avoid something. If you're able to eat, sleep, work, go out with friends... then masturbate all you want. No need to worry or feel guilty. Enjoy!

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