Q&A: My Partner Can't Keep Up with me Sexually

Answer: When it comes to sex, all people have slightly different appetites, just as they do with food. Although how hungry a person is can change from year to year, day to day, and even moment to moment, there's no doubt that people differ. This is natural and normal and only becomes a problem when there's a serious mismatch between partners.

Whether it's the man or the woman who wants it more, the issue is the same: One person feels pressured and the other feels unsatisfied. In these situations, I usually recommend that couples consider other sexual activities. Unfortunately, you've pretty much discounted all the usual ways in which I recommend that couples compromise.

There is no magic pill that can change someone's innate physical needs or desires, so my question to you is why these alternative activities don't count in your mind? Intercourse is by no means the only way to achieve sexual satisfaction.

I would suggest that you have a discussion with your partner in a non-pressure-filled environment -- outside of the bedroom, and at a time when you're not feeling neglected. Be honest with him about the fact that you're not having your needs met and that it is starting to affect your relationship. He may not be aware of how strongly it's affecting you, or he may be going through something about which you're unaware.