'Stress Ruins Our Sex Life'
Posted December 30, 2008 10:29 AM
QUESTION: My husband was promoted to a management job at work recently and he's become stressed as some colleagues resent him for going over to the other side. He has also been working overtime to make a good impression on his bosses.
This has hit our sex life. He says he's too tired and no good at sex any more as he can't get an erection. He's been sleeping in the spare room to avoid me.
The extra money in his pay packet is no compensation for all the bad things happening in our relationship. I want my old husband back. What can I do?
ANSWER: There's a lot of pressure on your husband to prove himself, especially as he feels out on a limb with his colleagues. Letting the desire to succeed rule his life is unwise but nothing will change until he's settled into the job and is feeling more secure.
He needs a healthy, balanced life before he can regain a healthy sex life.
To help him get back on track, don't nag about the sex.
Right now he feels he's fighting on all fronts. Make his home his castle. Give him lots of attention and affection. Learn how to channel his thoughts and get his mind off work.
Offer to give him a massage to relieve the stress. This kind of physical but nonsexual activity is very good for increasing intimacy.
Source: YellowBrix, Daily Mirror
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Posted May 25, 2009 1:06 AM
My husband is 57 and has ed fro about 3 years. The last8 months he has shown no interest isin sex but he masterbates everyday and sometimes more than once. asked him and he totally denies it, He won't talk about it he says he is si stressed out he can't have sex. He says cause he can't satisfy me and can't keep an erection but he sure likes doing himself. What should I do.
Posted March 11, 2009 4:32 AM
You could try to make a nice dinner. get some wine and candle and set the mood for when he comes home from work and tht might work
Posted February 10, 2009 4:54 PM
Western males feel stress when the job is tough. The are in competition with other males(even if this is unvoiced) there is much envy and wish to pull a successful male down back to their level. Creating a relaxing atmosphere is the best way to re-engergize as is exercise and diet to ward off the stress related conditions.
Posted January 12, 2009 9:02 AM
Give him lots of hugs and kisses.
Don't put pressure on him for sex. It'll just make the stress worse and he may find reasons not to be at home at all.
Talk to him and let him discuss the problems that he's had at work (even if you're not all that interested). Just make sure he knows you're there for him.
Posted January 8, 2009 10:37 PM
May be his new job is just another reason why he became cold? Don't try to find the answer why, accept it and be happy with what you have. Always be warm, show your love and care and your old husband will be back. Don't concentrate on it.
Posted January 2, 2009 4:34 AM
Just show your love to your husband and don't expect anything in return. Caress him the way you like it. Love is giving...Happy and Loving New Year to you.
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