Tonights The Night: Schedule A Date For Sex
Scheduling a date for sex seems like it would kill all the spontaneity that you imagine goes along with an erotic life, right? But think about it. When you were dating, didnt you know when those hot dates would end in something other than a hot cup of Joe at the end of the night? You anticipated your sexy dates and you got ready. You prepared for them, sometimes physically by wearing special clothes, or shaving or perfuming your skin. Emotionally you got excited and looked forward to connecting with your new partner. And sexually your body and brain actually began releasing hormones and brain chemicals that prepared the way for a hot and sexy evening. Thinking about sex got you in the mood for sex. Knowing it was coming made for some hot fantasies and what I call anticipatory eroticism.
Now that you are married or living together and you know your partner is available to you anytime, you might have put aside those sexy clothes, the shaving your legs every day and the sexy thoughts. Thats why combining sex with domesticity can feel a little boring. Anticipating sex is part of rejuvenating the excitement of sexuality. When you schedule a special night that is dedicated to your erotic life together, it gives you a chance to remember what is important about your erotic life together, and honors that it is important to both of you.