What Really Happens in a Sex Therapists Office?

My husband says Im always the most popular person at parties everyone wants to talk to the sex therapist! Its true that many people are intrigued by what goes on behind my office doors. But the truth is, its often not that much different than regular therapy I just bring the primary focus back to sex more often.

And heres why. Sexual problems are just like most problems they often have some emotional roots. Its true that sometimes there are biological reasons why people struggle sexually. But whether a problem begins in the body or in the mind, eventually, both of these systems require attention. For example, if a man has diabetes and thus develops trouble with his erections, hell probably also develop some degree of performance anxiety - making sex that much more complicated for him. Similarly, if a woman has a low libido after menopause, eventually her intimate relationship may become strained and she will feel the emotional distance building. Emotions find their way into all of our sexual struggles.

In addition, our general challenges of life typically get expressed sexually. That is because sex is when we are most open and vulnerable. We are not protected by clothes, or by our public personas. Without this protection, issues in our lives can easily surface in the ways we give and receive love. For example, if we are depressed in life, the quality that we give and receive love will be affected. Same if we are stressed, or exhilarated and happy.