What do men really want in bed? When I ask women in my practice this question, I often hear things like more sex, or oral sex, or sex at times during the day that are inconvenient for her. I hear that men want to be able to grab their partner whenever and wherever they choose, or they want a woman with larger breasts or a more slender waist. Rarely do I hear the truth.
And what is that? What do most men want most in bed?
They want a woman who is enjoying herself.
Men get the most sexual pleasure when they feel their partner is excited and happy to be there. Contrary to what many women believe, men dont get tremendous sexual pleasure when a woman is just going through the motions. That is why when a woman has sex just because her man wants it, she finds that in spite of her best efforts, hes still not satisfied. Sex for sexs sake is rarely enough to satisfy anyone over time. He might agree to this initially, but after a while, hell feel unsatisfied too.
So, ladies, if you want to improve your sex life, then let me offer you a challenge. I challenge you to experiment sexually, and search for ways to make your intimate relationship more rewarding for you. Get some sexual technique books from your local book store, highlight what seems interesting, and ask your partner to try some new moves with you. Or schedule a romantic weekend away and take time to look into your partners eyes and get to know him again. And when making love, remind yourself to open to him emotionally and sexually. Imagine that you can dissolve your skin and let your partner reach deep inside you, emotionally and sexually. In this way you can learn to open and receive more from him, and youll enjoy making love more. The beautiful truth is that focusing on pleasing yourself will ultimately please both of you!!!!
