Is your sex life not much fun? Is it, literally, the same old, same old? Well, join the club. Any couple who have been together for any length of time have the same thoughts. Because every couple, no matter how turned on they are to each other, or in love, create their own patterns and habits. And like it or not, there’s not a lot of distance between patterns and routines.
Routines by definition aren’t necessarily awful. For example, let’s say you and your partner are in a pattern of always making love in your bed, just before you both go to sleep. The positive part of this pattern is this time frame works for you. Orgasm just before sleep leads to a better sleep because orgasm is a natural sedative. Not to mention, making love in bed feels good. Beds are sturdy, and they’re comfortable. The trouble starts when bed is the only place you make love. That’s a routine. That’s a rut.
How to get out of it?
If you love a bed, climb into a different one. Check into a hotel. Got a spare room? Use it. Don’t have another bed? Make small alterations to the one you’ve already got. Change things up by adding or subtracting pillows. Dress the bed in satin sheets.
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